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Jun 12
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Graduating from Church?

Posted on Saturday, June 12, 2010 in Journey of Discipleship, Young Adults

CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL OF OUR HIGH SCHOOL AND COLLEGE GRADUATES!

It is an exhilarating time of year, when college and high school young adults graduate, and look forward to the next steps in their journey of life.  So many possibilities, so many unknowns.  The biggest unknown is whether or not these young adults will continue in their journey of faith with Jesus Christ!

According to the latest longitudinal studies and research, approximately 65-75% of baptized and confirmed youth will have stopped participating in the worship and ministries of the church, any church, by the age of 21.   The sad situation is that: 

  • Approximately 10% of baptized children/youth continue in the life of the church and “grow in grace”/vocation leadership within the faith community and its mission in the world.
  • Of Americans 40 years old and younger: 40% don’t believe in God, 25% say they are spiritual but not religious, and 5% say they are religious but are not committed or connected to any faith community.  That’s 70% of young adults in America!

So, my thought and challenge is this:  what would happen if every adult in the life of these graduates, starting with mom and dad, their aunts, uncles, and grandparents wrote their graduates a note sharing what their faith in God through Jesus Christ means to them, and why they find being connected to a community of faith (aka “the Church) is meaningful and important to them.  In the midst of all the well wishes and congratulations, maybe a word of encouragement to continue on in their Baptismal relationship with Jesus Christ might be needed.

Aug 24
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Blessing of the Bags (for college and university students)

Posted on Monday, August 24, 2009 in Young Adults

For those who cannot attend the Sept. 13 “Blessing of the Backpacks” for the children and youth of CV.

First, load up your backpack or book bag, or whatever you use to carry your books, computers, and classroom materials.  Second, invite some friends to join you and bring their backpacks/book bags, etc.   Third, pile them all together, then say/pray this blessing together (or if you’re really creative, turn it into a responsive reading).  After you are done, maybe pin or tie something to your bags as a reminder that God goes with you wherever you go.

Lord God Almighty, creator of the universe, source of all Truth, Wisdom, and Knowledge, thank you for the precious gift of education.  Bless this bag that I haul around, for it holds within tools for learning.  Bless these tools for learning, sources of facts and figures, dates, names, and places, ideas, theories, equations, theorums, and questions yet to be answered, information about the cosmos and all that is within it.  Bless those that use these tools to teach, to impart knowledge, skill, and understanding - the professors, teachers, and assistants charged with my education.  And bless the one who carries the bag, who uses the tools, and learns from the teachers, for being a student is no easy job.  Bless me, dear Lord, for I am a student in need of your help and guidance.  May my education not only lead to fulfilling employment, may I also find my calling in life, where my knowledge, skills, talents and gifts intersect with the needs of the world.  In Jesus name, amen.

Jun 4

How to make disciples?

Posted on Thursday, June 4, 2009 in Young Adults

“Every organization is uniquely designed to exactly produce the results it achieves.”Peter Senge, “The Fifth Discipline”

Think quick: How long would it take to graduate from four years of high school if you only had one hour of class a week?  Answer: about 24 years!!!

Think quick:  How effective is it to raise children, youth, or young adults in the faith if they spend less than an hour a week learning about the faith?  Answer:  NOT EFFECTIVE AT ALL!!!  That’s one of the primary reasons why the Churches in America, especially the mainline, are shrinking and getting older and older.  

We have designed a church system that offers something you’d hear on a late night infomercial.  “Folks, you just won’t believe this special offer!  I’m talking fully mature disciples of Jesus Christ.  That’s right, we’re talking making disciples, fulfilling Jesus’ Great Commission, and all in less than an hour a week.  Heck, you can probably skip a couple Sundays a month and you won’t know the difference.  That’s right, if you act now, for only a couple bucks in the offering plate, we will make God-fearing, Jesus-following, Christians out of your kids.   And all you need to do is sit with them for an hour in the pew on Sunday morning (optional with our platinum plan), and then drop them off for an hour of Sunday school while you grab a coffee and a donut, and Wa-la!  Little Christian disciples.  BUT WAIT, THERE’S MORE!!!  For only an extra hour and a half on Wednesday nights (pizza included) by the time they are going into high school, your job will be done.  We’ll slap a robe and red carnation on them, take some pictures, and you’ll never have to bother with going to church again.  At least not until there’s a wedding or somebody dies, but hey, at least they’ll be serving food and bars!”  (In many churches there isn’t anyone left to make the bars anymore.)

My friend Sam, an Anglican Priest from Uganda, told me about a saying they have in his country, “The Family is the First Church.”  He went on to explain that what they mean by Family is not what we mean by family.  Their Family is mom, dad, the kids, the grandparents, the aunts and uncles, the cousins, and even the close neighbors and friends.  In Sam’s family growing up, talking about faith and scripture, singing, and praying together was part of the daily rhythm of life.  It wasn’t a rigid thing where everybody had to sit down and have a mini-Bible study and sing-a-long together.  Family members would share things they read in the Bible, or ask questions, or sing while doing the chores, or talk about something they learned or experienced and how that impacted their faith, randomly throughout the day.  But the one thing they always did every night was to check in about the day and then pray together.  ”That’s what Family does, they live the faith every day,” Sam concluded.

 

Gubrud Family Christmas Sing-a-long.

Gubrud Family Christmas Sing-a-long.

Jesus calls us to be the answer to the problem.

 

“At the heart of a learning organization is a shift of MIND – from seeing ourselves as separate from the world to connected to the world, from seeing problems caused by someone or something ‘out there’ to seeing how our own actions create the problems we experience.” Peter Senge, “The Fifth Discipline”

As Pogo famously quipped, “We have met the enemy, and the enemy is us!”  But while that is true, the opposite is also true, we can be the solution to our own problems.  We need to change our thinking, change the way we look at things, and we need a deep change of heart, so that we can change the way we do things.  And all of that will mean really listening to God, because only God can change and transform us.  In fact God gave humanity a little process to follow that leads to that kind of deep change.  It’s probably over 4,000 years old, but it might be worth dusting off and trying again.

“Hear, O Israel: the Lord our God, the Lord is one.  Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.  These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.  Impress them on your children.  Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.  Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.  Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.” - Deuteronomy 6: 4-8

What might that look like in your family, in your home, in your daily routine?  Would your kids, nieces, nephews, or grandkids have some clever ideas what to paint on your doors and gates?  Why don’t you ask them?  And at the same time, why don’t you share with them why you love the Lord with all your heart, soul, and strength?  Don’t worry, you don’t need to answer that one quickly, but don’t waste too much time thinking about it, because there is not much time to waste.

May 8

Read Along with PK

Posted on Friday, May 8, 2009 in Male Spirituality, Young Adults

Pick a Book

Need a little light reading, or something a little more challenging while at the cabin, camping, or on vacation this summer?  Have I got the deal for you!

Here are three books to choose from that I will be reading over the summer, under the overall theme of “passing on the faith.”  When I get back I will be meeting with each group that read a book to discuss what we learned and how that might impact our ministries at church.  You can find and order these books online at Amazon.com, Augsburg Fortress, Male Spirituality, or Barnes and Noble.

3 to choose from

Frogs Without Legs Can’t Hear,” is written by David Anderson and Paul Hill, from the cutting edge Youth and Family Institute, here in the Twin Cities.  For too many years people have thought that spiritual growth and faith development happened primarily at a church, taught by professionals.  Over the last 50 years or so, this has led to the many bad habits and attitudes that in fact inhibit growing faith in children, youth, and young adults.  The critically missing piece is that faith is formed primarily during the other  167 hours spent outside and away from the church – with the family as the FIRST CHURCH!

At the end of June I will be participating in the Male Rites of Passage in northern Minnesota.  This spiritual retreat for me was developed by Father Richard Rohr and the Men as Learners and Elders (M.A.L.E.S.) program that is part of the Center for Action and Contemplation.  In the book “Adam’s Return: The Five Promises of Male Initiation,” Father Rohr describes the many reasons why men need to reclaim and experience initiation in the 21st century, and the lessons and promises that are gained and learned through male initiation.

For the past year I have been meeting monthly with a spiritual director in a group setting with other clergy.  This has helped me in my own spiritual journey and growth, by helping me listen to God.  Pastor, professor, and author Eugene Peterson has written about this subject in his book, “The Contemplative Pastor: Returning to the Art of Spiritual Direction.”  Peterson challenges pastors and congregations to reclaim the spiritual basics and core role of pastors as spiritual directors in the midst of the busyness and demands of “running a church.”

If any of these books is of interest to you, search for them on the websites I’ve provide, order your copy and start reading.  I really look forward to hearing what others think about the issues brought up in these books next fall!